It doesn't sound like your family had monster possession to worry about. [ that is... quite literally a huge sign she was probably not like her family. ]

I don't have quite the same outright negative view on death I think of lot of people have, but I would argue wanting so badly not to be like someone or something makes you a cut above them in the first place.

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No, they didn't. I'm not sure what that means for you.